tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31780157.post8493745290848145500..comments2017-03-06T01:34:18.075-06:00Comments on Younger News: How do you praise your kids?Mama Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03534245701379707268noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31780157.post-70002807948169202052012-03-03T16:18:30.132-06:002012-03-03T16:18:30.132-06:00I think it depends on what you are telling the chi...I think it depends on <i>what</i> you are telling the child he is smart about... Having been told repeatedly (not really by my parents) "you are so smart" when doing well at school always left a bad aftertaste in my mouth, so to say (a bad aftersound in my ears?), because I knew it was not a result of effort, and I knew that was nothing to be praised about, it was just my gift to remember things. But I think if a child makes an effort of intellectual kind and you tell them they're smart, they'll understand what you mean. Generally, I think it's not all that much the wording (although that surely plays a role, too), but rather the intent behind the wording. I'd be afraid that if the intent was "praising my child the right way" rather than just "praising my child for doing well", it might leave a bad aftertaste as well. That's my two cents.Hana - Marmotahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03532515160608083460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31780157.post-73343986509022786242012-03-01T14:04:47.604-06:002012-03-01T14:04:47.604-06:00I praise our boy for being smart, but I also prais...I praise our boy for being smart, but I also praise him for trying hard. I don't think that one type is better than the other. If we are blessed with any girls, I'll tell them that they are pretty, the same that I tell our boy that he's handsome, cute, etc.<br /><br />I think there's more to it that just how a child was praised - I remember being told that I was smart while growing up, and I don't think it discouraged me from trying hard. In fact, I very clearly recall being scolded when I didn't try - that did more to encourage me to try harder than simply being told "You're so smart!".<br /><br />That's just my two cents. :)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08223600361704336537noreply@blogger.com