Sure, we've had our ups and downs. Between my mom passing on, finding we weren't getting pregnant on our own, getting through comprehensive exams (both of us at some point), and any number of small disagreements and disappointments, there have been hard times. But the ever deepening friendship, the intimacy we've been able to foster, the birth of our son, and any number of small blessings and joys that show up have far outweighed the difficult parts. We strive to be honest with each other, even went that honesty hurts, to communicate when we are angry, hurt, disappointed or frustrated, to believe that the other has good intentions, and to forgive each other quickly (even when emotions say not to). We've certainly made each other cry or be angry at some point or another, but believing that the other has good intentions goes a long way towards getting past the hurt.
The easy part has been rejoicing with the other. When Hubby got through comps with an A last summer, that was easy to celebrate with him (and everyone else who was done with that summer's exams). When we discovered we were pregnant last September, it was easy to celebrate together and plan how to share that news with family and friends. Nonetheless, this has been a critical part to balancing the negatives.
And then there is friendship. Hubby is my bestest of all friends. We enjoy just talking together and sharing, gaming together, talking about gaming, playing board games (that pit us together against the game -- not against each other; we discovered that early one), even talking philosophy (I'm learning the vocab to sound like I know what I'm talking about). With out this friendship, our good relationship would be much harder to maintain.
|5 years ago, just about to the hour|
|Two nerds in a pod|